Thinking Outside the Box: Extending the Booty Call beyond Sex

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A good friend had once told another good friend of mine that “four in the morning is a dangerous time.” Of course, he happened to have been quoted as saying that around 4:45am, as they lay in bed together after participating in a late night tryst known to many as a “booty call.” It is true that the wee hours of the morning can be a trying time for those that are attempting to stay out of any sexual trouble, but as society continues to value autonomy over togetherness, the “booty call” has become applauded by many as just a way of having their needs fulfilled without all the work that comes with a relationship.

I have always been a fan of the symbiotic relationship. If the Nile crocodile needs its teeth brushed and the Egyptian plover wants to pick some crocodile’s teeth for nourishment, then let them both perform each other a service! However, why must people continue to insist that the booty call form of mutualism remain purely sexual? According to an article by “Pimpologist” on the website sosauve.com, there is a specific 2-1 ratio of the amount of times you can sleep over after a sexual encounter with your booty call partner. This one sleepover after two nights of just up-and-leave sex keeps emotional distance between the two participants. Most people would argue that keeping the booty call purely sexual is the only way to prevent having a relationship with their sexual partner, but I argue that it limits people from having all of their needs met. Booty call partners are really two people who have a strong base for a relationship: they are sexually attracted to each other, enjoy each other’s company, and randomly or not so randomly think of each other at odd hours of the night. There may be great reasons that you and your partner can’t be in a relationship together, and if the reasons are good enough, you will not be; however, no matter if you have good reasons or not, there is still an equal chance that one or both of you may fall in love. It either will happen, or it won’t. Staying the night after having a sexual encounter, or sharing a blanket while watching a movie, is not something that one should be concerned about if there is no chance for a real partnership, so making rules to prevent this outcome is unnecessary and limits the partnerships’ true potential.

If people started incorporating other needs into this arrangement, it is very possible that they could be fulfilled in more ways than sexually. It may not work out perfectly, but sex or love hardly ever does. The worst thing that could happen from following this new “no rules” rule is that you might actually wind up in relationship or an “arrangement” that makes you feel completely fulfilled, and isn’t that what everyone truly desires?